Being career-driven is not a crime. It comes with its perks and challenges.
You want to secure your future. You are looking forward to a life without struggles, and it makes perfect sense. But the career aspect of your life and your utmost focus on it can take a toll on your love life.
Dating is a tricky business, and when you are a career-driven single man, it can be more challenging. Even when you take some time out and find yourself a date, you often don’t have the time to chat with her or call her. But does that mean you’re not into her? I hope not.
Your commitment to career growth should not work as an obstacle to finding love. Here are some proven tips for growing your love life alongside your career.
#1 Take The Time To Explain
We often see it in movies- the guy is too busy with work and seldom has time for the girl. And eventually, they end up parting ways. But there’s a catch. In the war between love and career, love wins in the end when the guy chooses the girl over a big promotion or something in the same line.
Now, that’s just a movie. Romanticizing sacrifice is what gets you money. It is not the case in real life. Why should you have to give up your career for love? It should be perfectly aligned. For that, we need to put in some effort. Take the time to sit with your date and explain the dynamics.
Tell her about your hectic schedule and give her a heads up about the nature of your work.
While you should not have to sacrifice your career, she should not have to sacrifice her sanity to keep up with you.
#2 Look for Women with Similar Lifestyles
Yes, opposites attract. But in your case, the opposite would be someone who is not as driven as you and spends most of the time chilling at home. I don’t think it will work out with someone like that. So, the better option is to find a compatible partner who is as dedicated to her career as you. It will have its downsides, like finding time to meet each other. But think about the upside. Who else will understand your dedication more than her?
#3 Find Joy in Little Moments
With the time crunch in hand, it is only wise to start accepting the little moments. Even if you go on a date and have a clear idea this will not work out, try to enjoy every bit of it. Dating is meant to be fun.
And if things go well, and you end up in a relationship, enjoy the time you have with each other. God knows it’s not going to be much. Plan dates beforehand, go for quick eat-outs, and steal some moments in between work. It should work out just fine.
Communication is one of the essential parts of any relationship. And when you are busy with your work most of the day, you need to give special attention to it. Sit her down and ask her how she has been feeling or if there is anything you can do to make up for the lost time. There will be times when she might seem pissed. Let her speak her heart out and try your best to explain the situation to her. Too many fights happen because of a lack of communication.
#5 Try Online Dating.
Online dating is more favorable in specific scenarios, and this is one of them. Online dating apps give you the option to disclose things about yourself even before you meet someone. And besides, you can choose to connect with a girl with similar aspirations and passions in life. You can check compatibilty before committing.
For busy professionals, finding a date in conventional ways might not be possible most of the time. The frenzied work schedule keeps you holed up in the office all day. For such people, online apps are convenient. You can get yourself a date with the click of a button.
Love is of high priority, but so is your career. You don’t have to sacrifice or compromise one for the other. But that needs acting smartly and making sure to find a person who understands you and your passion. In the end, if she is your one true love, it will all fall into place.