Remember flirting when you were just a mere 20 years old? Everything seemed like your cup of tea. Coming up with the pickup line and every little gesture that will finally help you land a date seemed a lot easier back then. Time flew, and one fine day, you’re in your forties.
Now the prospect of dating and flirting seems almost scary. Starting from scratch when most of your life is left behind can appear to be tricky, but it is all in your head. More people than you think are getting in the game a little later than others. Or maybe life became a tad too hectic to focus on love life. The reasons can be myriad, but the outcome is only one- you are nervous about flirting now.
Gone are your days of passing notes and doing whatever your heart wished because time was not of the essence. But truth be told, flirting in your forties and fifties can be advantageous. You are more mature and have a bag full of experiences to know what you should and should not be doing. Yes, those experiences make you less brave than you were in your younger days. But it comes with its pros and cons. And you are much wiser and more grounded in life. These are your weapons to make dating and flirting more successful than it was earlier.
When you are playing the second innings, flirting is not all about living in the moment. It is also about planning a future alongside all the fun and games. Instead of just fooling around as you used to in your 20s and 30s, let’s be adults and flirt more maturely. Some nuances are of more concern now that you are at this phase of your life. Without any further ado, let’s get started with some proven tips that are guaranteed to amp up your flirting game.
- There are some key things to be remembered when you start flirting again at a more mature age.
- Dress to impress.
- Don’t let work ruin your chances.
- Pay close attention to your body language.
- Compliments can take you ahead in the game.
1. Dress To Impress
Putting in the effort to improve your appearance is a part of self-care and shows your date that you are seriously working to impress them. Whether you are going on a conventional in-person date or the new age virtual date, or you just saw someone at a party and want to get to know them better, dressing the part is a crucial aspect of flirting. It gives you an upper hand.
Let’s get down the high horses and accept the truth for what it is- physical appearance plays a vital role in finding a person attractive enough to continue flirting. So why not refine it further to level up your flirting game? In your forties and fifties, you are already late to the dating pool; use dressing sharply to your advantage.
Whatever you decide to wear should make you feel comfortable and confident. Whether you wear a dress or the classic jeans and white tee, make sure while making you look sexy, it does not prick and prod in places that make you wince in pain. Girls, avoid clothes that are too short so that you don’t have to tug on them every two seconds. It makes you look too conscious and less confident. And please leave the gym outfits for the gym. Your date does not need proof that you work out.
Your outfit contributes a lot to your personality. And flirting requires a confident nature. So dress impressively, walk up to the person of your interest and introduce yourself with a firm handshake, and your date will know you are a catch. The rest will be history.
2. Don’t Let Work Get In The Middle Of Flirting
The older you get, the more obligations you have; whether it’s in life or on the work front. You have a set career, and by this time, you must have reached an influential rank. But career can mess up your flirting game big time.
If we want to see you busy with work, we’ll meet you in your office. When you are out having a casual night, get out of your work mode. Nothing kills your flirting game more than work calls and emails. Imagine you saw a pretty woman or a handsome man and gathered the courage to talk to them. You have worked up the pickup line and everything. You reach them, offer a handshake, and are about to tell them how gorgeous they look today, and suddenly your phone starts ringing. You have a brief few seconds to impress the person with your flirting, and it is now gone. No one will wait for you to round up the call.
It is easier said than done. I know. A horrible day at work can ruin your mood, and it is not easy to keep it all aside and focus on flirting or the date. But imagine your work stresses wrecking a perfect date. Could you forgive yourself for letting that happen?
My suggestion would be simple. If you had a bad day at work, finish it and put on some music. Take a shower, and make yourself a refreshing cup of tea. Dress up and say a few words of affirmations to yourself. You will be good to go. Don’t let your flirting sound like an interview because you are still stuck in work mode. Flirting is supposed to be light and fun, don’t let anything ruin it for you.
3. Pay Close Attention To Your Body Language
Did you know your body does half the talking? Well, it does. The way you move your hands when you tell a story or the way your smile widens when you see someone you like can express a lot of emotions without having to utter one word.
Has no one ever told you to smile even when you speak over phone calls? It does make you sound more friendly. The same goes when you flirt. Smiling can take you places you never imagined possible. Smiling is a particularly attractive feature when it comes to flirting.
When you smile while flirting, you seem more approachable and warm. It also shows that you are happy to be speaking to this person. Body language can play a critical role in flirting. When you sit with your arms close while talking to someone, you seem more closed off and uninterested no matter what your intentions are. Similarly, a hand on the table or hand gestures while flirting can make you look confident.
- Things to keep in mind:
- Sit straight when you flirt.
- Face your person of interest.
- Don’t cross your arms
- Don’t tap on any surface or fidget.
4. Compliments Can Take You Ahead In The Game.
While flirting, don’t ever forget to compliment your date. Now and then, someone will complain that their date did not once compliment the way they looked or as a matter of fact, anything about them.
Complimenting can be tricky. If you don’t do it enough, you risk making them feel unwanted. But if you overdo it, you might look like a creep. It is all about finding the perfect balance between these two.
Women are known to love compliments. But ladies, here’s a secret for you. Men love it just as much. They might look all rough and tough on the outside, but they tend to be softies on the inside. So next time you meet a guy you like, don’t forget to tell him how hot you think he is.
For men, it is better to compliment a pretty woman more subtly than to be too direct. It will not only give her a healthy ego boost but also show you to be a gentleman.
Flirting should be all about enjoying the moments, even if you are getting older. As a matter of fact, you have reached an age when your parents, friends, and every other relative must be giving you unsolicited advice on dating and marriage. While they all have good intentions at heart, you don’t have to listen to anyone if you don’t want to.
It’s not too late to find the love of your life, and the only way to do it is to start flirting with the people you find interesting. Listen to me, you came here for a reason.
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